Science shows that if you can delay gratification, you will do much better in life. Not-OK addictions go for instant gratification, OK addictions encourage delayed gratification by requiring the effort first, then the pleasure payoff.
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A-B-C. Connect pleasure and purpose in the way nature intended: live long, strong and content. An OK addiction helps you connect pleasure and purpose by requiring effort before a pleasure pay-off. But the payoff is long-term and extends to all your life. Not-OK addictions have no worthwhile purpose.
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Building Boundaries means that others can’t walk over you or lead you into areas you don’t want to go. It builds your character. An OK addiction helps you build good boundaries by having you say “no” to time-wasting and life-wasting and “yes” to some effort, skills and usefulness.
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What’s an OK addiction? Something you love doing, almost addictively, that brings long-term contentment and builds character without emotional pain: playing a musical instrument, a special sport, a habitual hobby, an addictive art or an intense interest. In this four-part series we go from A to D of the features of OK addiction life stills.
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It hurts to hear it, but you’re not always boss in your brain. Your limbic system is like an excitable puppy running after anyone who gives it a treat, making them boss for a while: fashion, peer pressure, your sex drive, your love of fast cars, ambition, greed, and more.
For you to be boss in your brain will mean developing skills as easy as ABCD:
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Brain chemicals are manipulated by things that are addictive. That’s why anyone with a brain can get addicted. Amphetamines, for example, get the brain to release a heap of chemicals; particularly the pleasure-chemical dopamine. Dopamine hits feel fantastic. But drugs cheat your brain of real pleasure connected to purpose.
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Can pursuing pleasure make us miserable? (Weird concept.)
Have you ever felt all-movied-out?
After a chocolate or drinking binge, do you feel sick?
Do you secretly wish you could give up smoking?
Ever argued with someone because you drink or gamble too much?
Do you ever feel bad because you’ve manipulated someone for your own gain?
If any of these are you, then you know what it’s like to go for pleasure and end up in pain. Pursuit of pleasure is costing you. (WTF???)
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